Patience in Words

The tongue is powerful than any other organ of the body. It saves and it kills depending on how you have learnt to control it. 

Sometimes we say things that we don't mean in a mean way and usually, what we say is weightier and more destructive than what we do. Words are powerful than actions. 

Actions may be forgotten easily but when words make a negative and indelible mark on someone's reputation, it is usually difficult to forget. 

Meanwhile, we sometimes end up becoming sorry, feeling sad, guilty, and troubled for the wrong things we have said. That is conscience at work! However, it is always too late to rescue especially when such words have bruised trust.  

The success of our interpersonal relationships largely depends on our character and manner of communication (the way we talk). Many homes, friendships and marital relationships today have been messed by the reason of poor communication skills.

We get into trouble with other people when we fail to exercise patience in our conversations. 

Proverbs 13:3 (KJV)  He that keepeth his mouth keepeth his life: but he that openeth wide his lips shall have destruction.

Whoever is careful about what he says protects his life. But anyone who speaks without thinking will be ruined. Proverbs 13:3 (ICB)

Communication is one important element of relationship. Meanwhile, understanding, respect and patience matter a lot. 

Many of us only want to be heard, we don't want to hear others. We fail to put other people's feelings into consideration and thinking about ourselves alone has become the order of the day. 

Some of us are defensive in nature such that while we hear others, we are busy waiting for them to round up their point so that we can verbally attack them, defend our own point/action or try to make a favorable impression so that we can be viewed positively. Attitudes of this nature imply that listening skill is lacking and this will not help us build healthy interpersonal relationships.

Sometimes, we are quick to assume, accuse and judge the intent of others due to impatience. Patience propels you to talk less and listen more. 

To say the fact, it feels good when we can justify and defend ourselves whenever we are misunderstood but we must do that with love and meekness. Besides, some things are better left unsaid for the sake of peace.

Learn to be considerate and not be abusive in your speech. You will sure avoid many arguments and troubles if you can control what goes out of our mouth per time.

Weigh your words before you say them and put yourself in the shoes of others to know how you would feel if such words were spoken to you.